You all know Queen Dami — the former wife of the late Alaafin who later ended up with Portable. Every time I see her pictures or videos, I honestly wonder how someone this gorgeous keeps making these kinds of choices. Calling her beautiful is even an understatement..She married the late, revered Alaafin at just 19 years old. By now, she should be around 27 or 28. Baba was already in his late 70s when he married her, and she was his youngest wife. She even had a son for him when he was 81..In 2021, she was sent out of the palace for violating palace rules. When the Alaafin passed away in 2022 and she tried to return to the palace, she was chased away again..By 2023, she resurfaced — this time with wahala musician Portable. From day one, that relationship was nothing but drama. Portable dragged her online repeatedly, embarrassing her at every opportunity..After a premium embarrassment during a livestream, Portable evicted her from the house and shop he rented for her. She was even the reason he dragged Ibadan as a city “with no pop.” Despite all that public disgrace, she still tried to return — only to be embarrassed again..That incident happened in early 2025. People thought she had finally learned her lesson and moved on. She received massive public sympathy and support… until this week..During a livestream, Dami said Portable no longer existed to her. Portable fired back, claiming they were together the night before “having fun.” She denied it. Yesterday, Portable released chat evidence, and this morning he posted video proof showing they were on a phone call..From the chats and videos Portable shared, it was clear she was begging him for money. That was all the opening he needed to re-enter her life. She’s clearly used to a lifestyle where she doesn’t work or hustle, which explains why she swallowed her pride and went back..As expected, Dami has now put all her social media accounts on private due to public backlash..So who should we blame?.Her parents must take part of the blame. Which responsible parent hands over a 19-year-old girl with no education or skill just because of money? That early exposure to luxury clearly destroyed her orientation..However, the biggest blame still rests on Queen Dami herself. She is not a child. With her popularity, social media following, and the massive support she received, she could have built something meaningful. Instead, she appears addicted to freebies from men..Sadly, there are many Queen Damis in our society today. Once a woman is beautiful or endowed, it becomes her means of survival. Everything turns transactional..I’ve noticed that women are treated better in societies where this mentality barely exists — where women can pay their bills, hustle on their own, and stand independently. Respect comes naturally..Families and society must begin to see it as a necessity to properly orient and empower the girl child to become the best version of herself..Dependence on a man should be minimal. If your entire lifestyle and finances depend solely on a man, disrespect is inevitable.
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